Have you ever tried to accomplish something requiring the support of all when there is disunity within the group? I have, and it is impossible! Jesus likens a kingdom where there is disunity to a disaster waiting to happen. We have all heard the old adage, “divide and conquer.” It is so true. This all sounds rather depressing but it is something of which we need to be aware so that we can do our best to avoid such a situation if at all humanly possible.


When there is disunity within a group, no matter what size the group may be, it is essential that a way be found to heal the rift. This inevitably means both sides being willing to dialogue about the issues at hand. There will never be a solution to the problem if either side or both approach the situation with ultimatums or an inflexible position. The art of unity, and you know it is truly an art if you have been a part of a reconciliation process, is one that will be accomplished only through sincere openness to the other person’s or other side’s position. This means that a true dialogue must take place between the warring parties in order to find the common ground and to build from there.


Another essential aspect necessary for the process of reconciliation is humility. It is imperative that we reflect upon the life of Jesus in this regard as he is our model of humility and integrity. He did not need to die on the cross for himself! He chose to do so for our sake. It is willingness to do things ‘for the sake of others’ or ‘for the sake of unity’ that will provide the only basis for unity between disagreeing factions. A person who stands only on their rights in a dispute will rarely, if ever at all, be satisfied. Why do I say this? If there are warring parties then there has obviously been some sort of sin to set off the fight. Where there is sin there is always injustice – people who have been hurt through no fault of their own – casualties of war so to speak. It is not possible to practical to sort out every little aspect of a fight down to the last right that was trampled by sin. Somewhere along the lines both sides have to admit they were wrong in some things and forgive those who hurt them without seeking justification for every little aspect of their hurt. Jesus’ example of dying for the sins of others is the example we must all follow at times like this.


Do I tend to seek revenge for every wrong done to me? Am I willing to forgive those who have hurt me and move on in the relationship?


Holy Spirit, open my heart to the truth of your love for me and help me to follow your example in the way I love those around me.